Couples are usually freaked about romantic dates and spicing their love life with lots of fun during the courtship period, but once they become comfortable in the relationship, get married and start having children the romance can sometimes dwindle. Which means having less romantic dates and less affection towards one another? Now that you are more secure with each other, the need to impress one another has faded.
But have you ever wondered why this is so or why most romantic relationships often dwindle from what they used to be at the beginning? Couples who are more fun loving and playful in the early stages of a relationship forget this playful attitude as life challenges or old resentments start getting in the way. And so the once romantic and envious relationship suddenly turns sour because those involved in it have failed to put in the necessary effort and ingredient it needs to make it a lasting and happy relationship.
Now let us look at the story of Tracy and Segun. Both of them were drawn together by love at first sight. This couple met two years ago at a friend’s birthday party and decided to tie the knot after six months of courting. They were the envy of their friends and colleagues because they were like love birds that could not find any reason for them to stay away from each other for even a second. Tracy described that time as ‘the most blissful moment of my life’.
Unfortunately for them, their relationship started dwindling when their first child came because Tracy was too busy with being a mother, wife and career woman that she hardly had time to show her husband the kind of love and affection that he so needed. And so Segun had no choice than to keep late nights doing “God knows what”.
It’s like Tracy is back to her senses as she laments, “ I feel really guilty, I am trying my best to get back to making him happy again. I miss the old times when we use to go out and have fun”, she feels they both deserve to be happy together but she doesn’t know what to do to win her husband back.
People fail to agree to the fact that married couples are meant to keep the’ fire’ of love burning until death do them part. Children, career and family should not keep folks from renewing their love every day of their life, it’s high time couples said ‘NO’ to dwindling romance. Take the bulls by the horn and learn what it takes to bring back the spark that you may be missing. Here are some tips to spicing up your love life.
Go on at least one date a week
Don’t just sit there and watch the television all day, think of fun places you can go together. You don’t have to visit the same place every week, instead think of a new place to go each week. For example, you can have a picnic lunch on the beach this week if you are in a place like Lagos, or you can go to a restaurant or go see movies next week.
Give your partner a compliment everyday
No matter how long you have being together, it still feels nice to receive a compliment from a partner. You can tell your wife how beautiful she is or how cute and handsome your husband looks, just be sure to you say something nice to your partner every day.
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Show your partner physical affection
Greet your partner with a hug and a kiss every time you see him. Rub his head or massage his shoulders while you watch a movie together. Hold his hand when you are in public together to show the bond between you two.
Surprise your partner
Do something she won’t expect, like sending her flowers at work, or cook dinner for her with all her items on the menu to surprise her when she returns home from work. You can create a romantic environment by switching off lights and lighting candles. Throw a surprise party for her on her birthday. Small romantic gestures will make her smile, and show her that you care about her. Ladies should also do these for their partners.
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Recreate your first dates
Bring back the initial lust you felt by revisiting the spots you went to in the beginning of your relationship, you can also bring back memories of how you two met and discuss what happened on your first date. Or if you have moved on since then, at least bring back that level of creativity when you go out.
Take a stroll with your partner
You can share a lot in silence as you go walking hand in hand. A stroll with your partner is a bit of old-fashioned romance that can help develop a strong bond. Have your dinner and set out to the nearby beach — if there is one — for a walk. Watch the waves and the people around you. Talk about your memories, your first date, any funny incident in your relationship or a gift from your partner that you really cherish. Choose a quiet spot to sit down for a few minutes.
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Do something that your partner likes but you don’t
Wear a dress that you don’t really like but he loves to see it on you, or surrender the TV remote to him while your favorite program is running. These may seem little things, but they can convey that you care for your partner and are willing to make sacrifices to put a little spice in your life.
You may not need to put all these tips into practice, start with the one that is convenient for you and your partner to bring back the sparks that once existed between the two of you.
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